What does a kink therapist do?

A kink therapist authentically accepts the sexual preferences of their client and incorporates them into the therapy. They create a safe space for patients and their partners to discuss their sexual desires and relationship structure. They listen, support, and make their patients feel safe to explore their inner desires without feelings of guilt and shame.

Communication and boundaries are vital when exploring a kink and a kink therapist helps their clients navigate the terms and advocate for their unique needs during the therapy. The therapist ensures all partners feel respected and vital to help make their kinky preferences precisely what they want.

The partners design the sexuality and relationship structure, and a kink-friendly therapist offers advice on setting rules and the importance of sticking to those rules. The therapist differentiates their interests and desires versus those of their clients and focuses on the latter.

Therapists who are kink-friendly deal with their clients as experts on their sexual self and are willing to discuss their desires rather than stop or change their sexual behaviors. Each client uniquely expresses their sexuality. Kink therapists create a space for their clients to be both individually and in a relationship.


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