Nicholas Moallem

The primary goal of the treatment I provide is to arrive at a shared understanding of what is causing your suffering, and to help you to suffer less. This begins by establishing a trusting and respectful relationship which we will use as the foundation of the challenging work we'll do. To do this, I will regularly be asking your permission to explore sensitive topics before doing so, and I will encourage you to express any feedback or hesitations. Healing takes place when you can experience unrestricted access to the resources of compassion, curiosity, and stillness that we each carry within us. When pain causes us to disconnect from ourselves and the world around us, it turns into suffering. Therapy, and the relationship that we will construct together throughout, is a crucial way that you can begin to repair those connections. During this process, we'll work to notice and shift the patterns that have been dominating your life. Addressing them can create space for more flexibility, choice, and freedom from internal and external forces that have been driving you. Doing so involves looking at your experience as it unfolds in the present moment, while working towards an understanding of the past events and circumstances shaping it. I combine strategies from the approaches I have studied and been trained in: Compassionate Inquiry, Internal family Systems therapy, and relational/attachment based therapy. Using Compassionate Inquiry, we'll explore the connection between your mind, body, past, and present. This approach helps to cultivate self compassion, insight, and healing from past wounds. The techniques of Internal Family Systems therapy (IFS) provides us with a variety of tools to get to know the various parts of your personality and mind more closely. Using it, we can address some of your automatic experiences and behaviors such as substance use, problematic eating, self criticism, social withdrawal, aggression, and many others. Lastly, with the attachment based framework I work through, We'll work together to uncover some of the unspoken beliefs you have been harboring about yourself and others; beliefs which may have been shaping your perspective for years without your awareness.